We (women) demand for equal rights!! Equal pay, equal status…..and what not!!!We scream if we are exploited, we scream if we are paid less then men!! We protest against them!! We celebrate WOMEN'S DAY……..!!!!
But when it comes to get married, why do we demand that MY MAN should earn more then me?
Yup there is also an exception to it, if its an love marriage, we are so deeply involved in him that "SAL" doesn't matter to us , but when its an arrange "we expect him to earn more then us"?
Is it not a double standard? :f
Keep Faith
Chakoli :z
But when it comes to get married, why do we demand that MY MAN should earn more then me?
Yup there is also an exception to it, if its an love marriage, we are so deeply involved in him that "SAL" doesn't matter to us , but when its an arrange "we expect him to earn more then us"?
Is it not a double standard? :f
Keep Faith
Chakoli :z
42 comments:
Love is blind. so, in love marriage we cant see the salary slip. :-)))
hello madam.....
aaj subah subah kya baat hai......
@sandhya
and what arrange ones??
subah subah to roz hi aana apadta hain:-))
its one of those things that are socially engrain in our minds... traditionally the man's supposed to provide for this family. therefore it makes sense that he should earn adequately. also, if the woman earns more, it is likely that ego issues will crop up. of course with the changing society, all these things wud change too..but its not going to be a over n ight thing.
True... Why shd it be?
But my guess is that... ppl are jst following it for sometime they dnt thnk is it really make any sense....
Exceptions r ones like Indra Nooyi
@mandira
If its and ego issue, men would themselves say NO to marry to a gal who earns more then them...but its from us... when we ask he shud earn more...
@cm-chap
nopes dear...
people dont follow it just like that...but its is among the must condition of a gal.....
Indra Nooyi...lol.... there would be more to come:-))
Women are as complicated.. as the counting the no of stars in the sky.
no worries..
--from a certified complicated woman
there are indeed many double standards :P :D
i can think of couple of those which i can't type in here ;)
:D
how have you been chakko?
@veens
a very good answer....
but I guess... they are very simple...and very easy to understand:_))
@burf...burf burf....
Yeh galat baat haion..... moral bata diya aur reasons nahi diye...
bad bad bad burf!!!!
aaasi ekdym change jee:-)))
tussi dasso.......
bas ji kut rahi hai jindgani aapki moh... :P yaani yaado mein :D
reasons kabi one to one baithenge, tab bataunga :D
@burf....
ye loo khud to mummies ke saath aish kar rahe hain...aur keh rahe hain kii kut rahi hain zindagi yaadon mein........
double std!!!!
**We (women) demand for equal rights!! Equal pay, equal status….
U work with IBM... :P
lolzzz
well, i m unable to understand this, but i guess many men dont want their women to work and earn more than them, though i would love to be a house husband... :D
ehhehe
i dont think its a double standard, its fair in the kinda world we r living in..., though my personal opinion is, relationship has nothing to do with it, only ego...
Talkin abt love marriages i guess most of the sacrifices are made there only...not so much in arrange, just try to read through... :)
Nice Post!!!
Cheers!!!
Hmmm.. I guess the women want their men to work much more than them.. thats what they try to mean indirectly ;)
And yes, chai elaichi waali aur biskut kali mirch waale milenge aapko ;)
I wrk in similar one like IBM :PPPP
Men have a prob I agree but why do women have a problem is my question:_)))
u want to be a house husband...good one of my frd is looking fr someone liek u....give me ur cell no:PPPP
Its not fair at all dear.... see...I didnt got even a single reason why we ask men to earn more?
@vrij...
Chalega.... biscuit nahi khani humhe..sirf chai;-))
ask her to drop me a piece ... i would be more than happy :D
hehehe
**I didnt got even a single reason why we ask men to earn more?
hehe.. so u want me to elloborate???
well... i guess woman want man to earn more coz the reason they understand that in this world, if she will earn more than the ego clashes will keep happenning...
Also the fact that u desire for better, always, so when u earn say X amt then u always desire ur husband to earn X + something...
Also when u know that the inflation is rising at 7% per annum, it becomes quite difficult to sustain with ur shoppin habbits, and if someone gets one like me, who doesnt save any at the end of the month... then she must look for someone who earns more... :D (tats the fun part)
and btw... We at IBM believe in all this, i guessed coz at IBM the equality is already there :P
:P
Cheers!!!
and tat is ... drop me a mail... not piece.. gosh.. wat blunders m i committing!!! :(
@ chakoli ...
what do women actually want yaar ...
It is double standard. I guess arrange marriage is more of financial security. one needs to be financialy secured to live comfortable life.
I know couple with love marriage where woman earns more than man....they are living happily.
Good point :) Actually its not that women only want it,but men too feel inferior if the wife happens to earn more than them.Ego cant handle it....and well it helps if the man earns more...more bucks for shopping :)
As u say so.. bcoz u knw Women's mind better than me na...
Hey wats ur mail ID? u ok if i drop u a mail :-). let me knw
@Ankur....
LOL....
See about inflation all those considerationb we keep in mind...we wont like to marry also;-))))
Arrey bhai paison se shopping karenge ya ghar chaleyenge;-)))
Ego comes in picture but only when men make them come our way...
u are grt fan of gals;-))) so it wont help you to convive you;-)))
do they really do that?
@ankur
about dropping u apiece;-)))
let me ask her...what she drop u?
@vamsi
common man...u need find out that:_))
@KP...
I agree.... many people are living happily...
so it concludes that men are the major ones... when it comes to differences;-)))
@homecooked
lol...
shopping is alwayzz in our mind;-)))
@cm-chap...
for sure...
giveme ur mailid...
I ll drop u an email:_))
@solitaire
dont u think so??
**See about inflation all those considerationb we keep in mind...we wont like to marry also;-))))
wah wah...
**Arrey bhai paison se shopping karenge ya ghar chaleyenge;-)))
dono nahi ho sakta hai kya??? :O :O
**Ego comes in picture but only when men make them come our way...
:)
bhai hum toh aapki reasoning par fida ho gaye hain. hur ek question ke liye doosra question... wah bhai wah... sawalon ke jawab be de do.. yeh kya open ended comments hain??
**u are grt fan of gals;-))) so it wont help you to convive you;-)))
hello.. oye... kya hai yeh
:O
//ankur wonders...sabko pata hai kya??//
wat she drop me.. :P
:P
well.. watever.. i will wait for it, dont they say... something is better than nothing.. and now m looking forward to hear frm u abt this :D
:D
:P
Cheers!!
@ankur
nahi ho sakta na...;-)))
shopping is must....fir sacrifice aa jata hain...and as a nice goodie goodie gal...u have to sacrifice shopping;-0)))) yup conditions apply:until and unless. hubby has good bank balance;-))) but then needs also increase.... normal TV is no -no want an LCD...woh baju wali Mrs HSrama ke pass bhi hain na;-)))
Open ended comments... naah naah FACT keh rahe the hum!!!!
EGO tabhi aata hain jan "MEn" chahe...otherwise they can always keep it aside;-)))
Arry galat nahi kaha humne....all guys are "fan, ac of gals" so no reasons to that;-))))
Hmmm.... BEtabbbi....;-)))
See I convey ur message to her....dont know if she inrsted or nt.....;-))))
hi dost...
me fine. how r u???? having fasting for 9 days.... so bit dull for last 2 days.....
Hope evrythg is fine frm ur side....
Its cmchapblog@gmail.com
As some ppl have said, it's simply a security issue. In an arrange marriage, you don't really know the thought processes of the person you're marrying, nor do you have an established compatibility, so it makes sense to make sure the external factors (e.g. family acceptance, lifestyle compatibility, caste/religion, primary preferences)are all right (unlike love marriages, when these things are the unknown and often problematic factors which u hopt o tide by with an established intimacy). In this sense, one tends to avoid potential ego issues or hassles, and men have huge egos! the probability that they starting having issues if the wife earns significantly more is so high that it's not worth the risk in an arranged marriage. Intellectual compatibility and a comparable or greater salary are pre-reqs.
@sandhya...
uddi baba...fasting for 9 days....
kyun bhai kya manga bhagwaan se??
@cm-chap
Just mailed you :-))
@phoenix...
If you are considering the thought process dear...then how you could be sure that this person if you are in any trouble , he will help you finacially??
**shopping is must....fir sacrifice aa jata hain...and as a nice goodie goodie gal...u have to sacrifice shopping;-0)))) yup conditions apply:until and unless. hubby has good bank balance;-))) but then needs also increase.... normal TV is no -no want an LCD...woh baju wali Mrs HSrama ke pass bhi hain na;-)))
:P
yaar kitna hasaoogi???
:P
**naah naah FACT keh rahe the hum!!!!
bhai angrezi itni bhi kamzor na hai humari :P
**Arry galat nahi kaha humne....all guys are "fan, ac of gals" so no reasons to that;-))))
i hate tat every...all thing... :|
**BEtabbbi....;-)))
haan haan.. nahi hogi... :D
and i think u have got my definition of flirting :)
Cheers!!!
Keep Rocking!!!
@Ankur jee:-))
Hasan sehat ke liye aacha hota hain hasiye aur hasiye:-)))
Itni...matlab thodi to kamzor hain na..:PPP
Theek hain 'all' ke last ke 2 wrds hata dete hain aur 'nkur' jod dete hain:PPP
Betabbi...biklul honi chaiye:PPP
yup and I got ur defintion...:DDDDDD
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