Any Answer?

We (women) demand for equal rights!! Equal pay, equal status…..and what not!!!We scream if we are exploited, we scream if we are paid less then men!! We protest against them!! We celebrate WOMEN'S DAY……..!!!!

But when it comes to get married, why do we demand that MY MAN should earn more then me?

Yup there is also an exception to it, if its an love marriage, we are so deeply involved in him that "SAL" doesn't matter to us , but when its an arrange "we expect him to earn more then us"?

Is it not a double standard? :f


Keep Faith
Chakoli :z

42 comments:

Sandhya said...

Love is blind. so, in love marriage we cant see the salary slip. :-)))

Sandhya said...

hello madam.....

aaj subah subah kya baat hai......

Chakoli said...

@sandhya

and what arrange ones??

subah subah to roz hi aana apadta hain:-))

churningthewordmill said...

its one of those things that are socially engrain in our minds... traditionally the man's supposed to provide for this family. therefore it makes sense that he should earn adequately. also, if the woman earns more, it is likely that ego issues will crop up. of course with the changing society, all these things wud change too..but its not going to be a over n ight thing.

CM-Chap said...

True... Why shd it be?

But my guess is that... ppl are jst following it for sometime they dnt thnk is it really make any sense....

Exceptions r ones like Indra Nooyi

Chakoli said...

@mandira

If its and ego issue, men would themselves say NO to marry to a gal who earns more then them...but its from us... when we ask he shud earn more...

Chakoli said...

@cm-chap

nopes dear...
people dont follow it just like that...but its is among the must condition of a gal.....

Indra Nooyi...lol.... there would be more to come:-))

vEENs said...

Women are as complicated.. as the counting the no of stars in the sky.

no worries..


--from a certified complicated woman

burf said...

there are indeed many double standards :P :D

i can think of couple of those which i can't type in here ;)

:D

how have you been chakko?

Chakoli said...

@veens

a very good answer....
but I guess... they are very simple...and very easy to understand:_))

Chakoli said...

@burf...burf burf....

Yeh galat baat haion..... moral bata diya aur reasons nahi diye...
bad bad bad burf!!!!

aaasi ekdym change jee:-)))
tussi dasso.......

burf said...

bas ji kut rahi hai jindgani aapki moh... :P yaani yaado mein :D

burf said...

reasons kabi one to one baithenge, tab bataunga :D

Chakoli said...

@burf....

ye loo khud to mummies ke saath aish kar rahe hain...aur keh rahe hain kii kut rahi hain zindagi yaadon mein........

double std!!!!

Ankur said...

**We (women) demand for equal rights!! Equal pay, equal status….

U work with IBM... :P
lolzzz

well, i m unable to understand this, but i guess many men dont want their women to work and earn more than them, though i would love to be a house husband... :D

ehhehe

i dont think its a double standard, its fair in the kinda world we r living in..., though my personal opinion is, relationship has nothing to do with it, only ego...

Talkin abt love marriages i guess most of the sacrifices are made there only...not so much in arrange, just try to read through... :)

Nice Post!!!

Cheers!!!

Vrij said...

Hmmm.. I guess the women want their men to work much more than them.. thats what they try to mean indirectly ;)

And yes, chai elaichi waali aur biskut kali mirch waale milenge aapko ;)

Chakoli said...

I wrk in similar one like IBM :PPPP

Men have a prob I agree but why do women have a problem is my question:_)))

u want to be a house husband...good one of my frd is looking fr someone liek u....give me ur cell no:PPPP

Its not fair at all dear.... see...I didnt got even a single reason why we ask men to earn more?

Chakoli said...

@vrij...

Chalega.... biscuit nahi khani humhe..sirf chai;-))

Ankur said...

ask her to drop me a piece ... i would be more than happy :D
hehehe

**I didnt got even a single reason why we ask men to earn more?

hehe.. so u want me to elloborate???

well... i guess woman want man to earn more coz the reason they understand that in this world, if she will earn more than the ego clashes will keep happenning...
Also the fact that u desire for better, always, so when u earn say X amt then u always desire ur husband to earn X + something...
Also when u know that the inflation is rising at 7% per annum, it becomes quite difficult to sustain with ur shoppin habbits, and if someone gets one like me, who doesnt save any at the end of the month... then she must look for someone who earns more... :D (tats the fun part)


and btw... We at IBM believe in all this, i guessed coz at IBM the equality is already there :P
:P

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

and tat is ... drop me a mail... not piece.. gosh.. wat blunders m i committing!!! :(

Vamsi said...

@ chakoli ...
what do women actually want yaar ...

KP! said...

It is double standard. I guess arrange marriage is more of financial security. one needs to be financialy secured to live comfortable life.
I know couple with love marriage where woman earns more than man....they are living happily.

Homecooked said...

Good point :) Actually its not that women only want it,but men too feel inferior if the wife happens to earn more than them.Ego cant handle it....and well it helps if the man earns more...more bucks for shopping :)

CM-Chap said...

As u say so.. bcoz u knw Women's mind better than me na...

Hey wats ur mail ID? u ok if i drop u a mail :-). let me knw

Chakoli said...

@Ankur....

LOL....

See about inflation all those considerationb we keep in mind...we wont like to marry also;-))))

Arrey bhai paison se shopping karenge ya ghar chaleyenge;-)))

Ego comes in picture but only when men make them come our way...

u are grt fan of gals;-))) so it wont help you to convive you;-)))

Solitaire said...

do they really do that?

Chakoli said...

@ankur

about dropping u apiece;-)))

let me ask her...what she drop u?

Chakoli said...

@vamsi


common man...u need find out that:_))

Chakoli said...

@KP...

I agree.... many people are living happily...
so it concludes that men are the major ones... when it comes to differences;-)))

Chakoli said...

@homecooked

lol...
shopping is alwayzz in our mind;-)))

Chakoli said...

@cm-chap...
for sure...

giveme ur mailid...
I ll drop u an email:_))

Chakoli said...

@solitaire

dont u think so??

Ankur said...

**See about inflation all those considerationb we keep in mind...we wont like to marry also;-))))

wah wah...

**Arrey bhai paison se shopping karenge ya ghar chaleyenge;-)))

dono nahi ho sakta hai kya??? :O :O

**Ego comes in picture but only when men make them come our way...

:)

bhai hum toh aapki reasoning par fida ho gaye hain. hur ek question ke liye doosra question... wah bhai wah... sawalon ke jawab be de do.. yeh kya open ended comments hain??

**u are grt fan of gals;-))) so it wont help you to convive you;-)))

hello.. oye... kya hai yeh
:O

//ankur wonders...sabko pata hai kya??//


wat she drop me.. :P
:P

well.. watever.. i will wait for it, dont they say... something is better than nothing.. and now m looking forward to hear frm u abt this :D
:D

:P


Cheers!!

Chakoli said...

@ankur

nahi ho sakta na...;-)))

shopping is must....fir sacrifice aa jata hain...and as a nice goodie goodie gal...u have to sacrifice shopping;-0)))) yup conditions apply:until and unless. hubby has good bank balance;-))) but then needs also increase.... normal TV is no -no want an LCD...woh baju wali Mrs HSrama ke pass bhi hain na;-)))

Open ended comments... naah naah FACT keh rahe the hum!!!!
EGO tabhi aata hain jan "MEn" chahe...otherwise they can always keep it aside;-)))

Arry galat nahi kaha humne....all guys are "fan, ac of gals" so no reasons to that;-))))


Hmmm.... BEtabbbi....;-)))

See I convey ur message to her....dont know if she inrsted or nt.....;-))))

Sandhya said...

hi dost...

me fine. how r u???? having fasting for 9 days.... so bit dull for last 2 days.....

Hope evrythg is fine frm ur side....

CM-Chap said...

Its cmchapblog@gmail.com

Phoenix said...

As some ppl have said, it's simply a security issue. In an arrange marriage, you don't really know the thought processes of the person you're marrying, nor do you have an established compatibility, so it makes sense to make sure the external factors (e.g. family acceptance, lifestyle compatibility, caste/religion, primary preferences)are all right (unlike love marriages, when these things are the unknown and often problematic factors which u hopt o tide by with an established intimacy). In this sense, one tends to avoid potential ego issues or hassles, and men have huge egos! the probability that they starting having issues if the wife earns significantly more is so high that it's not worth the risk in an arranged marriage. Intellectual compatibility and a comparable or greater salary are pre-reqs.

Chakoli said...

@sandhya...

uddi baba...fasting for 9 days....
kyun bhai kya manga bhagwaan se??

Chakoli said...

@cm-chap


Just mailed you :-))

Chakoli said...

@phoenix...

If you are considering the thought process dear...then how you could be sure that this person if you are in any trouble , he will help you finacially??

Ankur said...

**shopping is must....fir sacrifice aa jata hain...and as a nice goodie goodie gal...u have to sacrifice shopping;-0)))) yup conditions apply:until and unless. hubby has good bank balance;-))) but then needs also increase.... normal TV is no -no want an LCD...woh baju wali Mrs HSrama ke pass bhi hain na;-)))

:P
yaar kitna hasaoogi???
:P

**naah naah FACT keh rahe the hum!!!!

bhai angrezi itni bhi kamzor na hai humari :P

**Arry galat nahi kaha humne....all guys are "fan, ac of gals" so no reasons to that;-))))

i hate tat every...all thing... :|

**BEtabbbi....;-)))

haan haan.. nahi hogi... :D

and i think u have got my definition of flirting :)

Cheers!!!
Keep Rocking!!!

Chakoli said...

@Ankur jee:-))

Hasan sehat ke liye aacha hota hain hasiye aur hasiye:-)))

Itni...matlab thodi to kamzor hain na..:PPP

Theek hain 'all' ke last ke 2 wrds hata dete hain aur 'nkur' jod dete hain:PPP


Betabbi...biklul honi chaiye:PPP

yup and I got ur defintion...:DDDDDD

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