Compliments

Its rightly said – Heere ki parakh johri ko hoti hain!!!

Compliments are one of the most extraordinary components of social life. If given right they create so much positive energy that they make things happen almost as if by magic. They ease the atmosphere around two people and kindly dispose people to each other. Of course, there is a way to give them. And, just as important, a way to receive them. And everyone needs to know how to do both. :)
Compliments usually involves the consciousness and awareness of a person , in a way a person who is complimenting is one of more value then one who receives it. :d
On the other hand, Recipients benefit from knowing that we notice and learning that we value them. So compliments are powerful in motivating continued efforts. People strive to do more of what brings praise from others.
Compliments are little gifts of love. They are not asked for or demanded. They tell a person they are worthy of notice. They are powerful gifts. But compliments work only if they are sincere reflections of what we think and if they are given freely and not coerced. Compliments backfire if they are not genuine. And faux flattery is usually highly transparent. A false compliment makes the speaker untrustworthy; it raises suspicions about motives. And that can undermine a whole relationship. :o
The art of the compliment is not only a powerful social skill; it is one of the most fundamental. You don't need to be an expert to do it well. You just need to be genuine. The more specific they are, the better. "The way you handled that question at the meeting was brilliant. You really refocused the discussion onto our plans." Compliments are in fact one of the finest tools for acquiring more social skills, because the returns are great and immediate.
Sadly, too many women discount compliments. Perhaps you've been in this situation yourself. Someone says, "Wow, you look great today." And you say, "oh, but I feel so fat (ugly) today." Or you get complimented on an outfit and you say, "Oh, this old thing, I've had it for years." Or someone says, "Hey, you gave a really good presentation." And you say, "oh, I just slapped some stuff together in five minutes." Such answers instantly suck the positivity out of the air and deflate the donor. They make the giver feel stupid for noticing and commenting on something so unworthy of praise. They totally invalidate the person's judgment. At the very least, they create social awkwardness. :#
There is only one way to receive a compliment—graciously, with a smile. :$


Keep Faith
Chakoli :)

40 comments:

Ankur said...

ok ok...

par u were only talkin abt women na!!!
lolzzz

Cheers!!

vijay said...

GM Chaks,

My compilents 2 U (have not read the entire stuff)

vs

maverick said...

i wish all women could read this right now :)

yaeecks veens is here said...

Girl I love your new template :))

Howdy??

Sorry fpr nt being here for ages :)

Compliments :) women generally do that :-/
i dnt understand y :-/


but i do accept them...makes u feel wow! and it just makes your day :))

Have a good day :)

Keshi said...

excellent post Chakoli!

An imp aspect of life that alot of ppl overlook.



**Sadly, too many women discount compliments. Perhaps you've been in this situation yourself. Someone says, "Wow, you look great today." And you say, "oh, but I feel so fat (ugly) today."


I so agree.


When someone gives u a compliment, accept it with a smile and appreciation. Also, always give compliments to others w.o. hesitating.


Keshi.

Chakoli said...

2Ankur:-))

Yup yup... I know u guys have fun when a gril make fun abt others...;-)))

its good to laff on urself at times;-))

Chakoli said...

@vs:-))

a very good morning:-)))

no prob take ur time:-))

Chakoli said...

@maverick

u read it or nt??;-))

Chakoli said...

@veens



ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Where have u been dear??

thanks fr the template thing:-)))

cute phtou:-))

yup yup... complimments make one's day:-))

~ ॐ ~ said...

you write well :)

Chakoli said...

@Keshi:-))


I guess these are quite small things which could make ur life more attached....and above all gives u more invovlement...:-))

Chakoli said...

@Om:-)))

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maverick said...

@chakoli dear...im all man...half the time women dont accept compliments as gracefully as they shud :D

visitlife said...

Chakoli,

Well said... One good and genuine compliment can make you more confident

But sad part is females use it too much unnecessarily and some fish for it too much

Solitaire said...

Well-said.

Chakoli said...

@maverick


lol

ab bhaav milenge to khayenge na hum;-))

Chakoli said...

@visitlife:-))

yups I know...

but what i think...sonehow people are so mjuch used to compliments that make them react that way:-))

Chakoli said...

@solitaire

:-)))

maverick said...

@chakoli...lol...woh to hai..

maverick said...

so howz ur day going on??

Amit 2.0 said...

so.. did u get any compliments today ... or something made you "day"..
?

niceguy251 said...

Chakoli,

Read your last 3 posts. It is good to be back in your comfortable environments - office for you.

I agree little things make a day. A smile on known face or a hug from someone close to you makes one feel very very nice.

You are right. Giving or taking a compliment is an art and has to be done gracefully.

Keep writing more & more.

Take care

Kamesh said...

Hi Chakoli :)

My PC isn't working and I have been too busy to access your blog from the office.. so i was away from ur blog all these days..

Coming to your post, a very good observation by you and very well said.. Anyone who doesn't tend to receive complements well should definitely read your post..

Let's see if i manage to come to your post more often!!

Take Care :-)

J said...

Compliments.. sure can fire back if the other person doesn't accept them graciously. Some do that.. as habit I suppose.

But yeh, they are aaaaalways welcome :D

Amit 2.0 said...

u ok ??

taureandude_23 said...

hey Chakoli
compliments if given genuinely give a positive vibe to the giver and the receiver. and it really puts one off if the compliment is countered by the "oh but..." it makes the giver feel like an idiot like u mentioned. compliments really lift the spirits and get a definite smile on the face.
take care
ciao

Vrij said...

Chaks.. u write awesome babes..

~mE said...

firstly i love the top part of your blog template :)

secondly - very interesting post :) Being a woman its very difficult to receive compliments from many people in a day...most of them are just to get you on their side. You cannot discount a compliment but ya a big smile a thanks is a right thing to do i guess..:)

When BOSS compliments me on work..i always say thanks, i worked for it and ill try to do it better next time :D boss happy i am happy :D

Chakoli said...

@maverick:-))

yesterday just gone...and today just came:-))

hw r u doing today??

Chakoli said...

@Amit:-))


yup soem did:-)))

Chakoli said...

2niceguy:-))



Thanks dear:-))
good to see u arnd...so hw r u??

Chakoli said...

@kamesh:_)


hey dont worry at all dear...take ur time:-))

as I said work is always the 1st priority:-))

take care:-))

Chakoli said...

@J:-))

yup yup..alwayss welcome:-)))

Chakoli said...

@Amit:-))

yup absolutely....

yes I left early:-)))

Chakoli said...

@taureandude:-))


yup yup...:-)))geniune compliments are like icing on cake:-))

Chakoli said...

@vrij:-))


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Chakoli said...

@me:-)))

Thanks sweetie:-))

BOSS complimeneting is like u are being awarded a noble prize:-)))

Amit 2.0 said...

good morning and good to know that you're good... :-)

Chakoli said...

@Amit


Morningggggggggggggg


yup yup I m good...fit and fine...pink and plump;-))

geet said...

agree with you . just accept it and say thanks with a smile.

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